Dec09 Personal - HYis borned , HZ sick and Fixmarket

Wah a really exhausting 2 Months for myself.

Hsien Yi is borned:)
My second son Hsien Yi is born on 17th November 09 Tuesday, hurray ! :) (37+ week)
It was in the evening time (the day before) when my wife suddenly felt water flowing, and after awhile we realised it is not your usual unable to hold the bladder. At that moment, we were caught unprepared and started to panic. We were actually trying to schedule a surgery next week on the 28th December (another 11 days later). We quickly got my parents here to take care of my elder son (3 yr old) and got the bag (luckily prepared in advance) with my wife's clothes and medical stuff and went straight to the hospital. As I was quite unprepared for a waterbag burst delivery (my first son symptons was actually slight bleeding) , I quickly grap some towels and a plastic sheet from somewhere and placed in the car.

As my wife started contraction, we think it was good to try a natural birth. However though there were contraction, there were no dilation, and there was a risk that the placenta may drop first , endangering the baby in the process, thus our gynae advised us for a cesarean surgery. The gynae came just before midnight and started the operation. And quite a coincidence, it is the Chinese Chu Yi. According to the Chinese it is a Da Ri Zhi (Big day) and only people with the ming (fortune) - you can be very successful and be the other opposite.

At 12am, Hsien Yi is borned, weighing 3.41 Kg and measuring 51 cm long with a very big head (39cm) - 90th percentile. It seems that my kids have something with being big headed haha :)

Hsien Yi is extremely alert, with his eyes opening on the next day already. (unlike my first one who only opened his eyes 1-2 days after being discharged in hospital)

The next month was a hectic month for us. The nanny who came is very unprofessional, she has an attitude problem ( I asked her to wake up at a certain timing to feed my son, while she say if she can wake up she will do so) - it really pissed me off. She also do some things which really got on my nerve, for instance washing vegetable in the basin ( extremely dirty !) , and washed ginger in the pail that I put my clothes in ! During the day time, she will also chit chat with my maid, sometimes oblivion to my wife asking for help (still recovering). It was a fustrating month for us. And although we though of changing the nanny, we viewed it week by week and thought that she will improve and we tried to close 1 eye. Well so we did not change and endured the 4 weeks. Also although the nanny takes care at night, when our son cries, we also wake up, and when he cries continously we as parents will also wake up in the night to see what is wrong.

The worst thing was during that time, my old neck problem came back. It pains after siting for some time. This problem came because I was too tired taking care of my wife and eldest son, such that when I fell asleep and slept in an awkward postion trigering the neck pain ( and I though it went away after not feeling the effects for more than the last 6 months)

The pain finally subsided after 4 weeks and luckily just in time after the nanny left. My this son is really difficult to take care. He drinks every 3 hours, meaning to say after 12 midnight, we have to feed 3am, 6am. And usually it takes about 45min to feed him, and burp him. Also, he has a habit of vomitting out milk quite easily. And he seems very alert and after awhile he will get very agitated and seems frightened (big eyes and panting heavily and cries if not pacified).

The first day the gynae left, I took the night shift, and after feeding him at 11am, I tried with no avail to get him to sleep. In the process I gave him another 2 bottles of additional feed before the 2am as he seems agitated and will only cool down after drinking the milk. The problem now on hindsight is that probably he is getting used to me and I am still inexperienced. ( everytime he sleeps, and when I put him down he gets up again and refuses to sleep. He then gets frightend and agitated and the cycle repeats itslef). That nightmare finally came to a rest when my wife woke up at around 3 am and I asked her for the pacifier. That really solved my problem partially.
Partially because we found out the next few days is that although he gets pacified, when the pacifier comes out he gets agitated again.

I have been taking night shift so that my wife can recover from her maternity. I have taken leave/scheduled leave which will last till next year. (2 weeks after HY 1 month) . Every night I sleep about 4-5 hours or less. 1 hr b/w 9pm-12am, 1-2 hr b/w 12am-3am, 1-2 hr b/w 3am -6am, and 2 hr fr 6am-9am. Sometimes he doesn't sleep from 12-3am, really exhausted. And this has been going on for the last 14 days...really shack.

Okay, lets see and hope this kid get better after the 2nd month. My eldest son is coping well with the new additional member. of course there is the ocassionally asking for attention and throwing tantrums , but he is happy with the new addition the the family.

Hsien Zheng falls sick - gastric intestinal
Also, just the day after the nanny left, my eldest son fell ill (Thu/Fri). He vomitted in the middle of the night 2-3 times and had diahorrea, resulting in everybody not having enough rest. The next day I went to the clinic downstairs. At first, his vomitting stopped on Friday, but his diahorrea still perisisted. On Sunday when my in-laws came, HZ went wih my wife to Orchard road, and his vomitting came back. After a short rest, he seems to have recovered and wanted to follow his cousins to Mount Faber Jewel box to see the snow show. After coming back from there, he started vomitting again, and this time whatever we gave him (water, milk (soya bean)) he keep on vomitting. I quickly decided to send my son to the hospital (Mount E), as I am afraid it was something serious like food poisoning. At the hospital, the doctor (specialising in gastronomy- stomache) examined him and told us that his stomach is quite bloated (alot of air) and still do not seem to be very dehydrated. He gave us 2 options, either leave him at the hospital for drip or take medicine recommended by him. As he seems not that dehydrated, the doctor recommended the latter, as drip can be traumatic/painful even for an adult. And so, he was prescribed - Debridat ( for stomach pain), and continued with his lacteol fort sachet (antidiarrheal drug) , dramamine used for preventing vomitting.

Lacteol Fort - Lactic acid producing organisms ; Belongs to the class of antidiarrheal microorganisms. Used in the treatment of diarrhea, for patients suffering from the chronic intestinal disease known as irritable bowel syndrome. Patients show symptons of abdominal pain, bloating or gas, daily number of stools, etc


Fixmarket -Urghh ..I got a letter from ACRA to submit AGM, which I have to hold AGM withinin every calendar year . I am in the process of striking of the company which I applied in August, and unfortunately I believe the strike off process may run till January (5 months) the next calender year. After reading the website, I came across Section 175, Application for Extension of Time to Hold Annual General Meeting. Since I do not know when the strike of will end, I applied for 3 months (50 dollars per month). After reading further I saw Section 201, Extension of Time to Lay Accounts at Annual General Meeting under Section 201 of the Companies Act- the account must be laid not more than 6 months before the date of the AGM. Really pek chek and according to ACRA I have to sought legal advice to see whether I need to apply Section 201 as their ACRA officers are not empowered to give such advice. What the heck , I also applied 3 months extension. So I paid an additional 300 to the stupid cost. Vomit blood. I really hope to close this shit this year (or early next year).

Sep Update

Have been rather busy
June -
1) took my son to the zoo
2) going over to KL

July - Aug
1) climatised my son to his new school -Pat's schoolhouse

2) Repaired 2 of my lights, 1 is the one in the kitchen, tha ballast was spoilt. After tinkiering for a while, I finally gave up and got the boss selling lights to come over to my flat to fix it. apparently it needed to cut 3 wires, and then connect it back. It came to about 40-50, and I think it is well spent as it was a very tedious job looking up for almost an hour to fix it.

3) Called the plumber to fix up my kitchen basin ...its leaking. spent about 200 to glue up the basin, change the tap...it came loose and the pipe below.

4) Got the confinement lady for my wife's confinement

5) Look around maid agencies and selected a maid...coming in a month's time. Smaller agencies are more personal then big agenices like Nation.

6) Got new furnitures...went furniture shopping/IKEA/Furniture mall/ and got a new cupboard so that we can store our newborn clothes, new shoe rack so that we can transfer our first boy's toys into the cupboard...now it is quite unsightly around. Sold our room's TV as it is the CRT and taking up too much space. Had also to move our furniture around and rearrnging getting our first boy's older clothes.

5) Manage to finally solved my Fixmarket problem !!!! I called Emmy to help me strike off the company. We compromised that I will settle Mr. Jiang's debt 2 years of accounting fee and she will help me do the strike off - full financial statements and audit for free.
So I paid up 2700! due mainly to my negligance....but bo pian...take it as tution fees
I went to IRAs to ensure that Fixmarket had no outstanding accrual to the government agencies and then went to ACRA to confirm that I can strike off the company w/o major shareholder approval. In the ACRA website, I meet all conditions to strike off except w/o major shareholder approval as Mr. Jiang is nowhere to be found.
According to Ms Lee at ACRA, I have to hold evidence that I have tried all means to contact him, and I can proceed ahead to click on the condiditon all major shareholder approve of the strike off.
This is a fantastic relieve after so many years (almost 9 years !) of trouble. It will take about 5-6 months to proceed.

Fixmarket sep 08

I wanted to clean this up last year...but did not. This has been fustrating me time and time again...and I want to end this stupid nightmare.

Now Mr. Jiang has run away. His greatforce website became a porn website. His company and personal handphone has been disconnected.

With me as a local director, I cannot run away. I went the seek Emmy's advice..

THis is what she told me... there are 3 scenarios now
1) force the company to close (strike off), this involve legal fees and lawyers and a potential wopping 10K
2) wait for 7 years before closing. In the meantime , every year has to hold/sign AGM as well as publish audit reports for ACRA. Since it is dormant, we will request next year not to publish audit reports to ACRA. This should save some fees
3) execute the following plan
- 1) email Mr. Jiang a few times and get his no reply
- 2) send a registered mail to resign as a local director and request him to contact me
- 3) send another registered mail saying that he has not contact me and I reference my resignation date, and stating I have discharge my duties as a director
- 4) Tell him that I will close the company if he does not get it touch with me in 4 weeks
- 5) Issue him an ultimatum that I will close his company in another 4 weeks.
- 6) Go to ACRA and plead ...most probably have to wait another 1-2 months.....

I have done 1-2....in mid November I will do 3, start Dec - 4, End Dec -5, Jan -6 go find ACRA.

Why we are doing this is because we do not want him (if he is ever able to) to have a potential court case against me, which I am closing the company against his wish. Emmy is right, in whatever we do, we must make sure there is no possible hold against me.

For Emmy's case, she made Amy sign in the contract that the "jewellery" case has nothing against the Emmy's account company and her personnel. This is to absolve her of any liability. Previously, Amy tried to involve Emmy and the company stating that she hid her gold in the company and Emmy was involve in the gold hiding,

Really have to protect oneselve against some of these illogical people who might harm you.

Fixmarket - Life Experience

This Fixmarket thing return to haunt me. This Mr. Jiang still has not paid 2 years of auditing fee for Fixmarket.

I am really quite fed up and I want to close this chapter this year. Either he appoint another foreign director and I resign or he close the company.

Emmy also told me to beware of Amy. This teaches me a lesson on how far you can extend your friendship to people. Apparently, Amy asked Emmy (when she was an employee of Amy) to help her pack her things. And this CID (Amy's boyfriend) did not let her into the house. At the end, only the packers came into the house to pack her things. This apprarently saved her as Amy was suspected of stealing Diamonds and Jewellery from her father-in-law. If she had entered the house, she will be suspected of stealing the goods. Apparently she told the police that the goods were stolen along the way when the goods were packed from that house to another location. If Emmy were allowed into the house, she would be the prime suspect.

She also warned us not to help Amy to carry her things.